Archive | May 2014

Anger Reservoirs and Bad Business

Bad business is when angry unsatisfied individuals are in business.

As individuals we need to accept who we are and acknowledge that things will not always go as planned.

Good business is knowing your business and carrying the vision of the business with pure passion, love and less to no anger.

As human beings, love and abundance was bestowed within us. Although we are heedless sometimes, we remain vessels of genuine love.

But…

Why are We Angry?

In a straight forward answer, we are angry because we seek things that were stored within our own selves amongst everything but the very self in which the satisfaction we need was accorded to.

Some may argue that anger is sometimes an involuntary response that one is unable to control. Point taken but the important question here is who should possess control over another’s emotions?

Look at it this way…

Not everyone makes it a point each day to do something special for the self. The self, due to other responsibilities that appear more important, is often left longing for appreciation and complete love from its own.

Meaning, we seek the answers, love and appreciation in everyone and everything but ourselves. We have time for everyone but ourselves. We are compassionate and care but not for ourselves. In the equation of life, we have forgotten our own voice, our own positive emotions and our very own happiness. We have become victims of continuous dissatisfaction.

Crucial point…

Anger or any other antagonistic emotion expressed towards the other is bad for the self but it is terrible for business. It could be any form of business. Don’t be angry and in business, it is not a fruitful combination.

The work place (especially) is or should be a civil institution where antagonism or negative energy of any kind is forbidden for it does not grow or maintain the vision of the business.

I say this because I’m tired of meeting angry, continuously complaining unsatisfied business individuals.

Here’s what I’ve figured…

Some jealousy rooted lack that can make us anger reservoirs and bad for business;

***People we undermined have succeeded beyond our expectations.

***We have never loved at all.

***We have loved but lost and don’t understand why or how.

***We feel threatened and violated.

***We can’t express how we feel.

***We are haunted by the past.

***We believed in things that led us not to the promised destiny.

***Nobody is willing to listen or and understand.

***Fear and doubt clouds who we really are.

***We are in battle with the spirit.

***We seek self identity in wrong platforms.

***The people who were meant to love us, deceived and hurt us.

***Who we are is shadowed by fear of being victims of the past.

***We are misunderstood.

***We do not fully trust our own judgement.

***We do not understand.

***We are misinformed.

***We have focused on things that have gone wrong.

***We’re taking each day as a battle of proving a point to everyone else but ourselves.

***We have not allowed ourselves to completely love who/what we are.

Love may have not healed the world, yet. But anger can always be diminished by completely allowing love to shine brighter than the darkness of anger.

Always remember; anger overshadows the absolute flourishing of the business.

Helpful article: anger management

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Do You Address or Disregard Silent Treatment?

They suggest that ‘sometimes’ silence is possibly the most powerful scream and serves as an indication of something being terribly wrong. I agree and also adduce that silence is sometimes the killer of its bearer.

Shutting your voice does not promise that you will be heard for silent treatment does not always translate the message intended.

As an occasional loud mouth and a typical analyst I’m more likely to observe things that people prefer to keep under their never to be discovered scarred past. And its never easy bringing such matters in the forefront because you are likely to end up a loner by circumstance.

Regardless I still maintain one thing; I don’t do silent protests. When something’s up I will make it crystal clear so there is no room for speculation. This goes hand in hand with mastering the art of speaking your mind and upsetting people in the process.

Silent treatments are monstrous and compelling creatures. My first ‘serious’ experience was as weird as all silent treatments go, I think. And I can also attest to learning absolutely nothing from this encounter.

Hence I recently got served my second serious relish of zero words. The silent was deafening – it exuded stillness of greatest annoyance. That was possibly the whole idea. But to add to my already ongoing series of convolutions, I’m still unclear as to what was meant to happen or perhaps what was I meant to do.

I begged (mind you I’m great at that) pleaded until the doors of the mouth opened and a voice came out – unexpectedly. I was shocked for a moment. And when we started talking again I wasn’t sure whether to apologise some more or continue with life as though all was forgotten.

I’ve however learnt something from the incident; people silent treat you because they are either completely fed up with you or completely do not have the capacity to handle the truth.

I don’t argue with the way each person expresses displeasure but I don’t like guessing if I’m the culprit or you’re just fed up with life – it happens.

So if this gigantic silent monster comes my way in the near future I’m still not yet certain how to handle it or if I should even handle it.

Therefore my question is: how does one handle silent treatment?